Showing posts with label Sleep. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Sleep. Show all posts

Wednesday, January 24, 2018

How to Conquer Monsters Under the Bed

As I child I remember being afraid of monsters under my bed. I was afraid that if even my toe leaned out over the bed, a monster would snatch it! I never mentioned my fears to my family and I did eventually get over them. On the bright side I think this taught me to be a very still sleeper, but I wonder if it would have made a difference if I had talked about it with my parents.

If you aren’t sure if your child is afraid of the dark or of monsters then just ask! You can also look for signs like anxiety at bedtime and clinginess before you turn out the lights. Talking about their fears will help them to understand their fears better and overcome them more easily. Just remember to take them seriously! To them monsters are real, so avoid disregarding comments or chuckling. They’ll know that you care if you listen and help them to come up with ideas to chase those monsters away!


Wednesday, October 4, 2017

Healthy Sleep Habits

My Frozen obsessed toddler likes to pretend to be Anna and wake me by prying my eyes open and asking, "Mommy, you wanna build a snowman?" The way she says it is adorable, except of course in the middle of the night! It's so hard to function on little or interrupted sleep. Here are some tips to help your nights go as smoothly as possible: 





Wednesday, May 4, 2016

6 Ways to End Bedtime Battles


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Most young children have times that they don't want to stay in bed or go to bed. Sometimes children don't want to stop playing or they don't want to be separated from you. Sound familiar? These bedtime battles can be hard. However, with a little work and sticking to a routine, you and your child can get through these battles.


Friday, April 15, 2016

Painting Your Nursery...It's more than just a color!


As new parents, everything has to be right. The right stroller, car seat, diaper bag, etc. When it comes to the nursery especially, you want it to be perfect. Did you know that the color of the nursery has an affect on your new baby? It may be hard to choose a color for your little one, but maybe knowing about how the color will affect your infant will change your mind!

Friday, August 14, 2015

Time for Bed

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As a parent, you've probably noticed when your children don't get enough sleep, they can become cranky or moody and show more behavioral problems. Setting a regular bedtime routine can help children get the right amount of sleep and improve the quality of their sleep.

Establishing bedtime routines can start at any age. Most parents begin introducing a routine when their child is around 4 months old and then make appropriate changes as the child grows. These tips can help encourage good sleep habits so that you and your children all get the rest you need:

  • Stick to a bedtime: Consistency is important, even on the weekends. Nap time can affect bedtime, so schedule naps wisely, according to your child's age. (For tips on naps: click here). As kids get older and start to give up their naps, they may go to bed at night earlier than they did as toddlers. Encourage older kids and teens to set a bedtime that allows them to get the full hours of sleep they need. 
  • Winding down/relaxation time: Prepare your child to sleep by having a wind-down period 15-30 minutes before the bedtime routine. A reliable set of steps that happen every night cues your child's brain and body that it's time to sleep. Some ways to help children relax include: a warm bath, relaxation stretches or massage, reading a book, or singing a lullaby. 
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  • Bedtime routine: The bedtime routine can include changing into pajamas, brushing teeth, dimming the lights, speaking in soft voices, and a goodnight kiss or cuddle. For infants, help them learn to fall asleep on their own by putting them in their crib when drowsy but still awake, so they don't get used to falling asleep in your arms.
  • Avoid screen time: At least an hour before bedtime, electronics should be turned off. Creating an environment that's favorable for sleep means kids' bedrooms should be free of televisions, computers, or mobile devices. (This is good advice for the whole family!) Overusing media devices can decrease the amount of sleep kids get by: delaying children's bedtimes, keeping kids' brains engaged and less able to fall asleep, and disrupting kids' natural sleep rhythms due to light emissions from screens. 
For more tips on healthy sleep habits, check out the National Sleep Foundation or KidsHealth
Sweet Dreams!

Wednesday, January 28, 2015

Sleep: The Ultimate Goal






Getting Baby to Sleep through the Night

            Having had six babies in fifteen years I can understand new mothers' desperation to
find a way to get her baby to sleep through the night.  Sleep becomes a precious commodity for both mother and baby. As a new mother, I wondered how old a baby needed to be before I could expect them to sleep through the night. This was followed closely with "What is the best way to get your baby to sleep through the night?"
            According to Charles Pohl, M.D. director of the Network of Apnea and Pediatric Sleep
Center at Thomas Jefferson University Hospital in Philadelphia “They (babies) have what we call disorganized, or fragmented sleep.” You cannot expect your baby under three months to sleep through the night unless you are one of the lucky ones.  Babies are just not hard wired to sleep through the night at that age. But take heart, because by the time your baby is 4 to 6 months old, you can expect your baby to sleep six to eight uninterrupted hours. By this time in their development their stomachs are a little bigger and they can “tank up” for the longer period between feedings.
            By 4 to 6 months most babies should be able to fall asleep on their own, in their
own crib without having to be nursed or fed to sleep.  This was true for most of my six children.  But what do you do if your baby will not sleep through the night?
           
The most popular method for training a baby to sleep through the night is called
the Ferber Method.  The goal is to teach the baby to learn to fall asleep by themselves in their crib.  


Here is a brief summary:


1.      Put the baby in their crib and say a brief good night and then leave the room.  If the baby starts to cry, let him cry for about 5 minutes.  Then go back into the room and briefly comfort the baby without picking him up and leave.  If the baby cries again you are to wait 10 minutes before going back into the room and repeating your behavior.  If the baby cries again you are to wait 15 minutes, until he falls asleep.  Your goal is to let the baby know that you are still there for him and that he will
be okay.


2.      Repeat with the same behavior every time he wakes up during the night.

3.      After the first night you are to add 5 more minutes to each interval.
This method should only take 3 to 7 days to work for most babies.The baby will begin to associate being in his crib with falling asleep.  This method, while effective was very difficult on me as a mother.  It is hard to wait during the allotted crying periods but it is worth it in the end. Whatever method you choose to get your baby to sleep through the night is up to you.  What works for one baby might not work on another.  The best advice I can give to new mothers is try different methods until you find the one that works for your baby and in the meantime sleep when your baby does because sleep is vital for both of you.



Tuesday, May 20, 2014

Monsters under the Bed



This is what pure joy looks like :) 

I am 100% obsessed with my nephew. I know I am slightly biased, but I am pretty sure the world revolves around him. The other day my sister posted this facebook status, 


"I think Aiden has officially started having little nightmares  He's woken up crying from his naps a few times and is pretty inconsolable for a few minutes, but this morning he woke up at 2:30am crying and calling for me. Through his tears he said "I scared" and "I want to sleep in Mommy's bed." It broke my mommy heart"

It broke my auntie heart, so I wanted to research it more. I had no idea that kids at young as two years old could experience nightmares. Our wonderful child developmental specialist broke down nightmares into three  different categories.

Night terrors:
The child is not aware and cannot be woken up
The child won't be aware or remember it
Time is limited, and the child will come out of it on their own
What to do: Make sure your child is safe and stay nearby until the night terror is over

Nightmares:
Child is sort of awake
Child is distressed
Its like a bout of mini-PTSD from the day
What to do: If you are aware of a stressful situation during the day, give your child a way to externalize their distress. Have some extra play time and make sure to end the day on a happy, calming note. 

Neural Discharge:
Child is on the verge of a developmental leap. Fears will crop up at periods of new and rapid development. Your child might be exhausted but their brain is on overdrive because they are learning something new- for example how to stand, walk or talk. Their brain will be firing all sorts of signals which can keep a child awake, or cause them to wake up in the middle of the night.   
What to do: Two hours before bedtime, practice the milestone as much as the child wants (like standing up and down 100x), and then one hour before bedtime, have slowdown time to help their minds slow down and get to sleep. 




Nightmares can also occur during transition periods like moving houses, getting a new sibling, or starting school. You can help ease these types of nightmares by talking about the transition in positive ways and easing the child into the situation. 

Here are 7 tips to help a child learn to cope with fears and nightmares found from this website:
  • Comfort your child and take their fears seriously, but don't add your own anxiety to hers.
  • Look under the bed, in the closet. Let your child understand that this is for her comfort, not because you recognize danger.
  • Firm limits on bedtime are reassuring.
  • A comforting loving hug always helps.
  • Help your child learn ways of comforting herself when she wakes in fear. She can distract herself by singing songs, making up stories, or thinking pleasant thoughts.
  • Throughout the day, model your own way of handling your aggression.
  • Read fairy tales together because they encourage young children to face their own fears and angry feelings.
If you have had any experiences or advice on dealing with nightmares in young children, let us know below! 

Wednesday, February 19, 2014

5 Tips for Weaning Your Nighttime Nurser

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There is no denying it.

Having a baby that wakes up several times a night to nurse can be exhausting! You wake up the next day with the dark under-eye circles, the chronic yawning, and the ever-growing question:

Will my baby ever sleep through the night? 
(A.K.A. Will I ever sleep through the night?)

Well he will! (And you will too!)

Here are some tips that will help your little one to get the comfort and nutrition he needs during the day so you can get the rest you need at night!

Tip #1: Understand where your child is developmentally.
It is important to know that babies who do not weigh at least 11 pounds will be unable to sleep through the night because they do not have enough mass on their bodies to maintain necessary calories overnight. They need the extra nourishment that comes through nighttime nursing. In addition, babies will show readiness signs for nighttime weaning, such as the ability to sleep for longer periods of time (about 10 hours) without waking.

Tip #2: Gradually decrease the length of nighttime feedings and increase the length between those feedings.
Start to gradually nurse your baby on each breast for a shorter period of time during nighttime feedings. If you fed baby for 10 minutes on each breast, try feeding for 5 minutes on each breast. Also try to increase the length between feedings by replacing some feedings with patting and comforting baby to sleep.

Tip #3: Nurse/Feed more during the day.
Try feeding baby every 2 hours instead of every 3 to make sure he gets more milk during the day. If your baby is old enough, make sure he eats enough solid foods during the day (especially at dinner) so you can be confident that night wakings are occurring more for comfort than for hunger.

Tip #4: Tank up before bedtime.
Nurse baby often in the hours leading up to bedtime. You could try nursing on just one breast during this time to ensure baby gets the higher fat milk that comes at the end of a feeding. Filling up on the higher fat milk will help baby sleep longer between feedings. You can also do what is called a "dream feeding" where you feed baby right before you go to bed, even if baby was already asleep. This way baby won't wake up only 1-2 hours after you go to bed (and you can get more sleep!)

Tip #5: Listen to your baby (and your intuition).
There is no exact science to weaning your nighttime nurser. Every baby is different, but you, as their parent, know them best! You can take these tips and use whatever ones you think will work best for you and your baby. If you try weaning your night time nurser and he cries inconsolably for two or more nights, try again in a couple weeks. Or if he seems to be more anxious or clingy during the day after you start weaning, try it again later. When in doubt, you can always contact us here at Help Me Grow. One of our care coordinators or our child life specialist would be happy to help you with your unique situation.

We hope these tips have been helpful. If you have any other questions, please feel free to comment! We would love to help.

For moms interested in nighttime bottle weaning, check out this post.

References used for this post:
Help Me Grow's Child Life Specialist, Robin Lindsay
Babycenter.com
Askdrsears.com

Thursday, January 23, 2014

Eliminating the Nighttime Bottle: It Can Be Done!

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I did it. I’ve passed the point of no return.

Why didn’t anyone tell me I was supposed to stop giving a nighttime bottle when my baby was 9-12 months old? (She is now 18 months old…)

I can’t be alone in this dilemma, and I certainly hope I’m not the only mama out there who remains oblivious to these milestones. I just happened to Google when nighttime bottle weaning should take place (because I was starting to wonder when I should finally take away that nightly source of comfort) when I found articles that said things like, "if your toddler is still taking a bedtime bottle at his first birthday, this would definitely be the time to get rid of it" because "toddlers are more likely to get attached to things between 15 and 18 months" (Source). 

Oh boy. I have got some work to do! But there is still hope for me and my 18 month old! There are ways to wean your baby from the nighttime bottle whether or not it seems too late. We will get through this together!

Here are some tips to *hopefully* make a smooth transition to a bottle-less bedtime routine:
  • Start sooner rather than later. I am already past this point, but if you have a little one who is between 9 and 12 months old, you can start now to gradually reduce the amount of milk given in the bottle at bedtime by 1-2 ounces every 2 days or so. So, if you are currently giving baby 6 ounces of milk/formula at night, cut it down to 4 or 5 ounces. After a couple days, cut it down to 3 or 4 ounces, and so on.
  • Feed baby an adequate dinner. Try making sure baby gets enough to eat about 2 hours before bedtime. The more baby's tummy is satisfied by food provided at dinner, the less likely she will want a bottle to sate the munchies at bedtime. 
  • Maintain a bedtime routine. Sticking with baby's bedtime routine (minus the bottle) can be just as comforting and relaxing as giving her a bottle. Give baby a nice warm bath, read her a book, cuddle, and sing to her (even if you're not a singer, babies love to hear their parents' voice). It may take a bit of time for baby to adjust to the routine without the bottle, but eventually she will no longer rely on the bottle for extra comfort. If you are not ready to eliminate the bottle from the routine altogether, try giving the bottle at the beginning of the routine and gradually reduce the number of ounces given (see the "Start sooner rather than later" tip).
  • Provide an alternative object of comfort. Try replacing the bottle with a big, stuffed bear or a soft blanket (or "blankie" as my baby fondly refers to it). 
Well, I believe it is time for me to start the weaning process. I am a little late at getting to it but with these tips, I am confident that my baby (and myself!) will survive without her nighttime bottle. 

What tips or tricks have worked for you when weaning baby off the nighttime bottle? 

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Wednesday, November 28, 2012

The Sleep Debate

We received the following comment from a Help Me Grow mom on Facebook:

"Help! My daughter is 4 months old and her pediatrician says now is the time to teach her to "self soothe" by letting her cry during the night. It's kind of now or never since she'll be rolling around and crawling soon and she might need help during the night. He said she'd cry for 40-60 minutes the first night, then less and less each night after and she'll be sleeping through the night in a week. Is it worth it to abandon her for a week to teach her to sleep? She's so happy, giggly, and snugly now. I'm afraid if I let her "cry it out" she won't trust me anymore and won't be so happy. I'd rather get up with her during the night if it means she'll be happy and psychologically healthy, but if it won't hurt her, I'm doing it. Her Dr. said it won't scar her, but I'd like your input too."

In response to this comment, we thought it would be a great idea for us to compile information about different sleep methods or tips!

The most important thing to remember is that there is no one right solution for every family or every baby

One of the most heard-of sleep training methods is the Ferber Method, sometimes referred to as the "cry-it-out" method. While Richard Ferber never actually uses the phrase "cry-it-out" it has become almost synonyms with his method because of its popularity. "Cry-it-out" actually refers to any method that says that some crying is often a side-effect of developing a normal, healthy sleep routine. The goal of these methods is to teach children to self-soothe so that they can use these techniques when they wake in the middle of the night or during nap times.

Here is a quick run-down of the Ferber Method:
  • Create a warm, loving bedtime routine that ends in putting baby to sleep awake and leaving them for longer periods of time, gradually, even if they cry. Ferber believes that putting your child to sleep awake teaches how to go to sleep on their own.
  • At the predetermined intervals, go in and check on baby. These intervals can be set by you and depend on how comfortable you are with leaving the child; ideally though, these should increase as the process continues. Patting or comforting baby is acceptable during these periods, but do not pick up or feed baby. This process is referred to as "progressive waiting." 
    • In his book Ferber suggests the following intervals:
      • 1st night--leave for three minutes the first time, five the second time, and ten the third and all subsequent times.
      • 2nd night--leave for five minutes the first time, then ten, then 12 for all subsequent times.
      • 3rd night and beyond--make intervals progressively longer
  • Ferber says that after about a week, baby should learn to fall asleep on their own.
  • The Ferber method does not propagate leaving baby to cry alone in their crib until they fall asleep. The progressive waiting approach encourages mom or dad to check in on baby but parents are encouraged to gradually limit the amount of time spent in the room.
"Simply leaving a child in a crib to cry for long periods alone until he falls asleep, no matter how long it takes, is not an approach I approve of. On the contrary, many of the approaches I recommend are designed specifically to avoid unnecessary crying."
 - Richard Ferber
But for those who don't feel like this is a good fit for them (and it's not for everyone), there are other sleep options. Pediatrician William Sears, parent educator Elizabeth Pantley, and registered nurse Tracy Hogg are three opponents of the Ferber method. 

Dr. Sears, an advocate of attachment parent, suggest "co-sleeping, rocking and nursing your baby to sleep, and other forms of physical closeness to create positive sleep associations now and healthy sleep habits down the road" (quote from here). His website offers 31 Ways to Get Your Baby to Sleep and Stay Asleep

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While Sears provides many great suggestions, it's important to remember the American Academy of Pediatrics' (AAP) stance on bed-sharing (sometimes broadly referred to as co-sleeping). The AAP does not recommend bed-sharing, as it increases the risks of SIDS. There are, however, safe alternatives (like the one pictured to the right) that provide many of the same benefits as bed-sharing, without the risks.
Tracy Hoggs, author of Secrets of the Baby Whisperer, offers a middle ground between Ferber and Sears. She propagates positive sleep associations, but unlike Sears, disagrees with the use of props (such as breastfeeding, rocking to sleep, etc.). Rather, she suggests responding to baby every time they cry by picking them up and putting them back down. According to Hoggs, this can be done as many times as is necessary and it will help continue the relationship of trust.

Elizabeth Pantley, author of The No-Cry Sleep Solution, offers a similar solution to Sears. She emphasizes a "gentle and gradual approach to all aspects of sleep, customized to your baby's needs" and recommends "rocking and feeding your baby to the point of drowsiness before putting him down--and responding immediately if he cries" (quote from here). Her website offers many tips and pamphlets with baby-focused sleep suggests that encourage closeness and security in the sleep-training process. 

The thing about all these "sleep solutions" is that not even the experts can agree! Parents should choose the option that works best for them, or combine aspects of each that they like. If you try one way and it's not working, try another! 

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Monday, October 22, 2012

Wetting the Bed: It's Okay!

We had an awesome guest blog on potty training awhile ago and a lot of the comments from parents expressed concerns about wetting the bed at night. So here's a little more information on what's going on and what to do when your child is struggling with bed wetting.
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The technical term for wetting the bed is nocturnal enuresis and it's present in about 40 percent of 3 year olds, it's most common in boys. So it's pretty common and a part of natural child development. Children are developing their nighttime bladder control and it will just take time to develop, and all children acquire this skill at different times. Your child just doesn't have a sense yet for when his bladder is full or the ability to wake up when they have to go to the bathroom. It's important to know that it really isn't your child's fault, they're still developing and it's just part of maturing to make mistakes along the way!

Another great thing to know about bed wetting is that it's often hereditary. So chances are if you wet the bed when you were younger, your child will too. This also means that they'll probably stop wetting the bed when you did!

So what do you do?

  • If they wet the bed, don't get mad! It's not their fault and they probably feel uncomfortable about it, so just help them understand that it'll get better.
  • Try to avoid drinking liquids before bedtime
  • Double sheet the bed so you can have a quicker clean up in the middle of the night
  • Go to the bathroom more often during the day so the bladder won't be as full at night
  • Go to the bathroom before bedtime
  • Setting an alarm to get up and go to the bathroom in the middle of the night may be helpful

When do you see a doctor?
Even though wetting the bed is a completely normal part of development and will most often stop on it's own,  there are times when seeing a doctor may be appropriate. If the child is still wetting the bed by about age 7, started wetting the bed again after being dry for a long period of time, or if children complain of pain, snoring or unusual thirst- it may be a good idea to consult with your doctor.

Overall, know that the dry days will come! Be patient and understanding towards your child until that day! Wetting the bed doesn't mean they aren't potty trained or are acting out, it's just a normal part of developing!

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Friday, September 21, 2012

Crib Safety

As an expectant mother, I have been overwhelmed with all the baby stuff I need to buy.  My grandmother keeps reminding me that the only thing I "need" is a car seat or else they won't let me take the baby home from the hospital.  However, I feel like I need the cutest little baby giraffe themed room ever and lots of PINK! (I'm still crossing my fingers that it is a girl.)  Luckily, my husband agrees with my grandmother and has given me a budget *sigh*  Anyways, the biggest thing that I try to keep in mind when buying anything is SAFETY!  Plus, what kind of a Help Me Grow employee would I be if I bought a re-called crib?  I think my boss might have to fire me on the spot.

Risks
An unsafe sleep environment can lead to death.  Babies have suffered from "entrapment, suffocation and strangulation."   Other babies die from Sudden Infant death Syndrome (SIDS).  However, there are ways to keep your baby safe!

Four Basic Steps to Crib Safety

1. Picking a Crib
     Drop down side cribs no longer meet safety standards.  Cribs need to be solid.  You wouldn't want the side to accidentally snap down.  

CPSC has announced 11 recalls involving more than 7 million drop-side cribs due to suffocation and strangulation hazards created by the drop side. --U.S. Consumer Product Safety Commission (CPSD)


CDSD crib testing.
2. Picking a Mattress
     Mattresses should be firm and fit snug against the side of the crib.  

Make sure there's only a slight indent--or none at all--when you press on it gently. You also don't want more than tow fingers'width between the edge of the mattress and the side of the crib. --American Baby


3. The Extras: Bumpers, Stuffed Animals & Blankets
    Skip them! Bare is best!  Plus, bumpers don't allow your baby to look around and explore her new world.

There is no evidence that bumper pads prevent injuries, and there is a potential risk of suffocation, strangulation or entrapment. --American Academy of Pediatrics


4. Placing the Baby in the Crib
    Babies should always be placed on their back in a room about 68° F dressed in one more layer than you would wear to bed.  Do not offer a blanket, but do offer a pacifier to reduce the risk of SIDS.

One factor that seems to have reduced the number of SIDS deaths is placing babies on their backs to sleep. The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends that healthy newborns be placed on their backs to sleep. When this practice began in the United States in the mid ‘90’s, SIDS was reduced about 30%.  --Welcome Baby, Utah County Health Department, 2004



In conclusion, I did spend a little more money on a safe crib rather than just buying a cheap one off KSL.  I made my husband feel the mattress THREE times and assure me that it was firm enough.  I decided NOT to use the super cute extra pink bumper I have and just use the pink sheets and even a pink bed skirt that will fit on the crib while it is raised up high.  I knew I would feel terrible if something happened to my baby and I could have prevented it.

Wednesday, September 12, 2012

Simple Solutions for Preventing Childhood Obesity


The conversation about America’s waistline has been going on for quite some time. And, unfortunately, we're not just talking about adults anymore.

In the past four decades the percentage of obese children has doubled for those between the ages of 2 and 5 and more than quadrupled for those between the ages of 6 and 11. In the 1970s, the percentage of obese 2-5 year-olds was 5% and 6-11 year-olds was 4%. Now those numbers are 10% and 20%, respectively. 

Being overweight or obese can affect more than a child’s self-esteem. It can lead to type 2 diabetes and cardiovascular disease, two very serious conditions that decrease quality of life and life expectancy.

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How do I know if my child is overweight or obese?

The follow chart indicates where your child might fall based on their weight percentile given to you by the pediatrician:
Underweight—less than the 5th percentile
Healthy weight—5th percentile to less than the 85th percentile
Overweight—85th percentile to less than the 95th percentile
Obese—Equal to or greater than the 95th percentile
BMI calculators are another rough indicator of where your child is at. A child and adolescent BMI calculator can be found here. (And if you’re interested, you can find an adult BMI calculator here). Remember: every child is different and these charts/calculators only provide a rough estimate; always consult with your pediatrician if you have any questions or concerns.

Now what do I do?

Before we point our finger at the parents of overweight children, let us remember that while individuals choices do play a role, the structure of the American society today is far less conducive to healthy, active living than it used to be. This means that as parents we must work harder to instill these habits in our children! And with all the documentaries, reality television shows, newspaper articles, and books constantly offering completely different culprits and solutions to the problem, the challenge of making our homes a healthier place can seem incredibly daunting.

But the bottom line is: YOU CAN DO IT!

And it’s probably a lot easier than you think. Just because you don't have a degree in nutrition or run for an hour every day doesn't mean you can’t live an active, healthy life! Often times it is the little things that makes the biggest difference

By now you’re probably asking: How do I do it?!

The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) has proposed a few simple solutions to help foster healthy, active living in the home. These steps are: 
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  1. Role modeling. Parents and family members should model healthy, active living. So much of what children learn comes from what they observe.
  2. Routines. Establish and maintain healthy routines that include eating the evening meal as a family, getting an appropriate amount of sleep, limiting screen time to less than two hours per day, and getting daily physical activity. The recommended amount of sleep for preschool-aged children is 10.5 hours a night for infants 12 hours are recommended.The AAP also recommend keeping televisions out of children's bedrooms as a way to reduce screen time and help children learn healthy habits. For a toddler, daily physical activity should add up to at least 60 minutes of moderate to vigorous activity per day. This time can be split up throughout the day, but at the end of the day should be at least 60 minutes. This might mean setting aside dedicate time each day for "active play." If you need some ideas or activities to help get your child moving and having fun check out Help Me Grow's Pinterest or some of the links at the bottom of this post.
  3. Building a team. Parents should engage and encourage family and friends to participate in their lifestyle, especially those who will be caring for the child. This also includes child care providers.
These are really great starting points for parents looking to make create a healthier home environment but for many parents, diet is still a huge question mark. A healthy diet is a crucial aspect of keeping our children healthy. 

What are the caloric guidelines for my child?

Estimated calorie needs for children ages 2-3 years:
Sedentary: 1,000 – 1,200 kcal per day
Moderately active: 1,000 – 1,400 kcal per day
Active: 1,000 – 1,400 kcal per day

Estimated calorie needs for girls 4-8:
                Sedentary: 1,200 – 1,400 kcal per day
                Moderately active: 1,400 – 1,600 kcal per day
                Active: 1,400 – 1,800 kcal per day

Estimate calorie needs for boys 4-8:
                Sedentary: 1,200 – 1,400 kcal per day
                Moderately active: 1,400 – 1,600 kcal per day
                Active: 1,600 – 2,000 kcal per day            

Low-nutrient, energy-dense beverages, desserts, and snack foods are the biggest struggle for most parents who aim to give their child a balanced diet. One study found that 82% to 89% of preschoolers consumed one or more such foods in a day. The same study noted, “Preschoolers’ nutrient needs are high, relative to their energy requirements, so there is little room in their diets for low-nutrient, energy-dense foods without exceeding energy requirements or consuming inadequate amounts of essential nutrients.” Meaning, there is less room in their diets for sweets and extra fats than their adult counter parts. This includes fats from sweetened beverages, apple sauces, snacks, and higher fat milk and milk products.

How do I know what to feed my child?

The Federal Dietary Guidelines for Americans of 2010 offers the following key recommendations as part of a healthy eating pattern (while staying within caloric needs):
§  Increase vegetable and fruit intake
§  Eat a variety of vegetables, especially dark-green and red and orange vegetables and beans and peas
§  Consume at least half of all grains as whole grains. Increase whole-grain intake by replacing refined grains with whole grains
§  Increase intake of fat-free or low-fat milk and milk products, such as milk, yogurt, cheese, or fortified soy beverages
§  Choose a variety of protein foods, which include seafood, lean meat and poultry, eggs, beans and peas, soy products, and unsalted nuts and seeds
§  Increase the amount and variety of sea food consumed by choosing seafood in place and some meat and poultry
§  Replace protein foods that are higher in solid fats with choices that are lower in solid fats and calories and/or are sources of oils
§  Use oils to replace solid fats (such as shortening or lard) where possible
§  Reduce intake of sugar-sweetened beverages
§  Monitor intake of 100% fruit juice for children and adolescents, especially those who are overweight or obese
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Okay, that’s a lot to remember, but here is a quick summary: “A healthy eating pattern focuses on nutrient-dense foods—vegetables, fruits, whole grains, fat-free or low-fat milk and milk products, lean meats and poultry, seafood, eggs, beans and peas, and nuts and seeds that are prepared without added solid fats, sugars, starches, and sodium.”

Don't forget: What your child drinks is just as important as what they eat.

The following are recommendations for milk and milk product intake for children based on age.

For children between the ages of ________ the recommended intake of fat-free or reduced-fat milk and milk products is ­­­­_______.

Fill in the blanks with the following:
a.       2-3 years, 2 cups
b.      4-8 years, 2.5 cups
c.       9-18 years, 4 cups

The AAP recommends whole milk for children under the age of 2 because of “their relatively higher need for fat to support rapid growth and development.” However, for children under 2 who have a family history of obesity, lipid disorders, or cardiovascular disease, fat-free or low-fat milk is recommended. After the age of 2, the AAP recommends that all children transition to fat-free or low-fat milk.

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Parents should also aim to completely (or nearly completely) eliminate sugar-sweetened beverages from their child’s diet. The consumption of sugar-sweetened beverages, which contain few essential nutrients and provide excess calories, are directly related to higher body weight. Considering this, parents can still choose to incorporate, on occasion, sugar-sweetened beverages into their children’s diets. However, this should be done with caution and only when the child’s other nutrient needs have been met.

The artificial vs. natural sugar content of juice can complicate the problem of trying to eliminate sugar-sweetened beverages. Unless the package label indicates “100% juice” it is not 100% juice. A label such as “100% Daily Value for vitamin C” does not mean that is 100% juice.

Resources and References for Parents

I have included some resources that I used for this post along with others where you can find more information on some of the topics discussed. Click on the title and it will take you directly to the website. Have fun and remember, doing something is better than doing nothing!


Wednesday, April 11, 2012

Scary Dreams

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It can be very alarming for a young child who is awoken from a bad dream. They usually wake up in fear and come running towards your room. As a parent, how can you best calm them down, reassure them, and help them get back to sleep? Nightmares become common in four-, five-, and six- year olds. 

Here are 7 tips to help a child learn to cope with fears and nightmares:

Comfort your child and take their fears seriously, but don't add your own anxiety to hers.
Look under the bed, in the closet. Let your child understand that this is for her comfort, not because you recognize danger.
Firm limits on bedtime are reassuring.
A comforting loving hug always helps.
Help your child learn ways of comforting herself when she wakes in fear. She can distract herself by singing songs, making up stories, or thinking pleasant thoughts.
Throughout the day, model your own way of handling your aggression.
Read fairy tales together because they encourage young children to face their own fears and angry feelings.

Here is also a list of books that can help your child deal with nightmares and scary things:

There's a Monster in My Closet: Mercer Mayer
Where the Wild Things Are: Maurice Sendak
Much Bigger Than Martin: Steven Kellogg
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 This information came from the book, Touchpoints by Dr. Brazelton