Tuesday Toddler Tip:
Do you ever hear your toddler talking to
themselves; repeating corrective discipline you have given them, like:
"don't whine", "ask nicely", "hitting is not nice", "count to ten".
Hearing your child talk to him/herself like this may seem kind of
weird, but as adults we do it all the time, except we've learned how to
internalize those thought processes. Think about the last time
you had a job interview, to prepare, you probably thought about all the
things you wanted to say; you may have even practiced out loud. This is
exactly what your child is doing, he/she is internalizing social rules
and norms of how to behave, act, and what to say in social settings.
As parents you will want to encourage this type of behavior by not
interrupting it, and also by modeling the behavior. Say you get
frustrated while talking on the phone to an insurance company; when you
hang up model out-loud things you can do to calm down. You could say
something like: "Breathe" or "Count to ten" or even "I need some
cranky/concentration creme" (a soothing lotion, usually lavender; the
motion of rubbing it in gives you time to cool off and the lavender help
to relax; works wonders for toddlers).