Wednesday, September 29, 2010

Birth Order

Some parents may feel at a loss when they start having more than one child. The children may seem to differ in characteristics, temperament, and behaviors. Below is a list of different typical characteristics that you as a parent may be able to use for more understanding. Though theses do not always apply, they still maybe used as a guideline.

Only
  • Child Pampered and spoiled.
  • Feels incompetent because adults are more capable.
  • Is center of attention; often enjoys position. May feel special.
  • Self-centered.
  • Relies on service from others rather than own efforts
  • Feels unfairly treated when doesn't get own way.
    May refuse to cooperate.
  • Plays "divide and conquer" to get own way. _________________________________________________
First Child
  • Is only child for period of time; used to being center
    of attention.
  • Believes must gain and hold superiority over other children.
  • Being right, controlling often important.
  • May respond to birth of second child by feeling unloved and neglected.
  • Strives to keep or regain parents' attention through conformity. If this failed, chooses to misbehave.
  • May develop competent, responsible behavior or become very discouraged.
  • Sometime strives to protect and help others.
  • Strives to please. __________________________________________________
Second Child
  • Never has parents' undivided attention.
  • Always has sibling ahead who's more advanced.
  • Acts as if in race, trying to catch up or overtake first child.
  • If first child is "good," second may become "bad." Develops abilities first child doesn't exhibit. If first child successful, may feel uncertain of self and abilities.
  • May be rebel.
  • Often doesn't like position.
    Feels "squeezed" if third child is born.
  • May push down other siblings. ___________________________________________________
Middle Child of Three
  • Has neither rights of oldest nor privileges of youngest.
  • Feels life is unfair.
  • Feels unloved, left out, "squeezed."
  • Feels doesn't have place in family.
  • Becomes discouraged and "problem child" or elevates self by pushing down other siblings.
  • Is adaptable.
  • Learns to deal with both oldest and youngest sibling. ___________________________________________________
Youngest Child
  • Behaves like only child.
  • Feels every one bigger and more capable.
  • Expects others to do things, make decisions, take responsibility.
  • Feels smallest and weakest. May not be taken seriously.
  • Becomes boss of family in getting service and own way.
  • Develops feelings of inferiority or becomes "speeder" and  overtakes older siblings.
  • Remains "The Baby." Places others in service.
  • If youngest of three, often allies with oldest child against middle child. 
Taken from http://www.childdevelopmentinfo.com/development/birth_order.shtml

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